December 5, 2010

What a 7-year old taught me about Natural Hair




I spoke with a 2nd grade student of mine yesterday about natural hair and her thoughts were shocking. Please watch and post your feedback. Have you had any experience with this? What are some ways we can try to remedy this and improve hair-image amongst young girls?

11 comments:

Aba said...

That's so sad. :( Seven year olds should not be having negative thoughts like that about their appearance! No one should, but especially not young children. My mother did a great job making sure I stayed positive about my skin color and appearance when I was a kid, through lots of talks like what you did with that girl, and I'm hoping the next generation of children in my family get the same treatment.

Rinny Riot said...

The end result was she did say , "maybe I'll have my hair like yours." after I demonstrated the versatility of being natural but I just want her to love herself and I understand that can be hard if not reaffirmed daily.

Pwettybambi said...

Its sad the little girl already thinks like this. I never hated my hair/skin when I was a little girl and the day I got a relaxer without my mums knowledge she flipped but now i'm natural. My mum/ family never aloud me/my siblings/cousins hate who we are as individuals.Your right that parents have to teach their kids the love themselves more especially in the era we r currently in.

Ms-gg said...

That's sad

SeanB_Kenobiii said...

awww thats why i always make a note to tell my little cousins that their natural hair is beautiful...

etoilee8 said...

You did a great thing that day. I can't say I felt one way or another about my hair growing up. People always told me I had beautiful hair and a "nice grade" (which confused the shit out of me . . . what's a 'nice grade' to an eight year old?) But by age ten it was relaxed and since then, I've never gone back. I let it grow out a bit when I lived abroad and I wish I had just kept going with it. It was hard to manage but I think I could have dealt.

Either way, it's super important that we teach our little ones that they are beautiful and cherished no matter what hair they have. I don't think I'll relax my future children's hair unless it's something they really, really, really want. Otherwise I'll probably keep quiet about it. It's a crummy process to start and one that I wish I could break :(

But great blog post and good job on keeping the little ones as they should be. Worry free and proud!

Illa Jams said...

Wow I remember when I went through that I did not listen to my mom in sixth grade before I got a relaxer. I recently a few months ago became natural after I was inspired by so many other African american women who were natural and how beautiful their hair was. Especially your blog, and my little sister the most. Her hair is natural and coarse as well and when I had a relaxer she kept looking at my hair saying she wanted her straight but I told her her hair was beautiful and that I wanted mines like hers lol. And now I tell her hair is beautiful every day and that she should embrace it. Also I had a friend who had long locks. She is adopted, and she moved to England for two years, and the kids over there called them "shit-locks" and now she came back with a perm and tracks in her hair. It is very sad how the media and people could down someone so much just for having a different look or natural hair. In dc that is all see girls with tracks and weave.

KAY said...

I had a similar situation to this. I was talking to another girl my age (17) and she asked me if everything was okay at home. I was like why would you ask me that question? And she answered with "is your hair like that because you can't afford a perm anymore". I was so shocked! and I explained to her that I missed my natural texure and I always really loved my hair this way. You would have thought I was speaking another langage because she could not imagine anyone liking their hair this way.

Retromus-ik said...

I hope you made an impact on that girl. Maybe you can show her different styles she can do with her hair...although she is too young to style her hair on her own...I really hope she realizes how beautiful she is. It'll be hard for her since she's receiving a lot of negativity at school.

CeCe said...

I'm glad that you could be a positive role model for your student. It really just takes ONE person to change a child's perception, honestly. One child at a time. Mark my words, by this time 10 years from now we won't be having the same conversation!

Aisak said...

I saw your video on youtube and decided to check out your blog. Poor little girl. I know how she feels. I felt early on that nappy looking hair was a no no. I damaged my hair so badly that I had bald spots when I finally stopped relaxing. I am glad to say that the spots have filled in although still short and the rest of my hair has flourished. I haven't had this much hair in so long. Click my name if you wanna see my nappyversary and length check on my blog. @Kay- I literally laughed out loud. Hilarious. I had spaces in my teeth and people were so uncomfortable with my mouth they couldn't understand ever being able to think you were pretty with those teeth. I def understand but the question was funny.